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A friend once asked if I attend plays, shows, musicals, what have you, by myself.
The answer is most definitely Yes. Certainly yes. It goes without saying. The preceding entry was a solo quest. It was me attending a bunch of plays and musicals by myself sitting in an audience filled with a bunch of couples, old and young (demographic depends on the play itself) nestled in between them with my (very strong) drink in hand, solo. It's a pathetic look from an outsider's point of view but for me it's sheer joy. Sometimes when I allow myself to consider it, I feel pathetic. I feel like the girl who couldn't get anyone to ask her to the prom. That pathetic!
The answer is most definitely Yes. Certainly yes. It goes without saying. The preceding entry was a solo quest. It was me attending a bunch of plays and musicals by myself sitting in an audience filled with a bunch of couples, old and young (demographic depends on the play itself) nestled in between them with my (very strong) drink in hand, solo. It's a pathetic look from an outsider's point of view but for me it's sheer joy. Sometimes when I allow myself to consider it, I feel pathetic. I feel like the girl who couldn't get anyone to ask her to the prom. That pathetic!
I only remember this now because a former paramour of mine took in one of my favored plays with his girlfriend. When I mentioned I was going to see The Producers, he instantly thought I was going with my own paramour. I can only assume based on his question that plays are best taken in with that lucky fella. As I thought of him sitting in that play with his girlfriend, I could only imagine how much fun it must be if accompanied against my solo (oft-termed "pathetic") effort and that just saddened me even more. Thank goodness we didn't attend the same play at the same time!
But the reverse is not acceptable to me - that is, foregoing the play because I can't get a fella to take me. I'd rather experience life (in this case a play) with myself than not at all. I'd rather it be "Yes, I saw the play," than me wondering what might have been: what was the show like, was it good, was it just as the critics described, etc? I don't know what that makes me. Hopefully a feminist, an positively single, and not that pathetic solo chic who just sits off by herself (sipping her very strong drink) laughing at all the jokes.
There are weak moments in being single. A singleton's task is not for the weak of heart. There are enriching moments - like that spontaneous trip (to Vegas, Thailand, Brazil) that your coupled up friends wish they could take. But the weak moments resonate with me - and having to take in a play non-solo is one moment I eagerly partake.
But until that time comes, this blog tells my story. The story of how I attended 3 plays and a dozen of other events, and social activities in my life by myself. Feminist or (Pathetic) Soloist, you be the judge. Just say hi if you happen to bump into this soloist. I don't bite.
But until that time comes, this blog tells my story. The story of how I attended 3 plays and a dozen of other events, and social activities in my life by myself. Feminist or (Pathetic) Soloist, you be the judge. Just say hi if you happen to bump into this soloist. I don't bite.
