a little flashback...

In San Francisco, I decided to stop by and visit an old friend of mine from college. To better explain this story, let me explain our friendship. Ever have that friend that gets jealous because you have other friends, that expects you to give them too much of your time, that promises to keep your secrets but does not, while you keep hers, that blames the world for all the things that happen to her, her failing her college finals, not getting a good boyfriend, the state of her wellbeing. To better explain this, her parents got divorced when she was very young, so she hates the world, people, has a hard time trusting, is just in incredible distaste about everything, and everyone regards her as Debbie Downer, and avoids her, but you are still her friend. You try not to be when she gets on your nerves, but all of a sudden she calls you on New Years Eve and says, I want to make amends, I want us to be tight again. Like she can't make up her mind. Just a screwed up woman who in the modern world you would suggest therapy, but in this world, you just say she is sad, she needs to get laid, and she will get her satisfaction from life eventually. But this girl is a tough one, and to complicate matters I thought, since I am in San Francisco I might as well stop by and just say, hey, we haven't seen each other in about 8 years so why wouldn't she want to see me? It left a bad taste in my San Francisco high. Really bad taste.

So I was in the neighborhood of the Embarcadero and remembered that the law firm she works for is in one of the buildings, building No 4 actually. So I said, hey, let me say HI. I had sent her a couple of emails about me being in the neighoborhood but got an out of office. But I didn't get the last email she sent saying "she would pass." So I went there with tweedle-dee-dum-de-tweedle look on my face, and boy was that a shocker when she left me sitting in the waiting room, while they paged her, etc. She sent an email back saying, I am not available. That was cold. Then, she sent me an even meaner email. So the email string below is us back and forth and me trying not to let it ruin my vacation.

Date: Wed, 11 Apr 2007 23:48:32 EDT
Subject: I just got in
From: "Anita
To: Ola
I just got in to town....do u want to meet up?

Subject: I just got in
Date: Thu, 12 Apr 2007 11:07:17 -0700
From: "Ola>
TO: Anita

Just incase you did not get my previous email. I will not be able to meet with you. I hope you have a great time visiting the city by the bay.

-----Original Message-----
From: Ola
Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2007 8:42 AM
To: 'Anita'
Subject: RE: I just got in

No I think I will pass. Enjoy your trip.

After my visit...

Hi Anita,
I got your first email which I did not respond to and was hoping that would let you know that I was not interested in meeting up with you. I also received the email you sent on Wednesday April 11, 2007 which I responded to. I told you that I would not meet up with you and wished you the best on your visit. I think its was most unprofessional of you to show up at my job in the middle of the morning to ask to see me. This is not Nigeria and people don't do things like that here. And I believe you have leaved in the states long enough to know that.
Ola

From me...somewhat pissed but trying to be the bigger person in the land of the children.

Hey. I wasn't sure u got my earlier email since I received ur out of office. I stopped by ur office becos it is facing one of the popular SF sites. I am well aware that people don't do that in this country but I am nigerian. And thot it wld be a nice surprise. Just like I wld like u to stop by if u ever get to atlanta. I didn't get ur response to my wednesday email, so I had no idea u were still acting like a teenager. Anyway, I am not angry that u felt the need to snub me instead of just stopping by to say hi and bye. I know the world is a very small place and maybe one day I may have the oppty to snub u too, even tho I know I wldnt becos I am the bigger person. Uve taught me that people like you never change, no matter the country, or the age or how successful they are. U'll always be a sour puss, always. I don't know why I thot you'd be different by now. Its time to let those sour issues
to rest. seriously. Goodbye.

She went on feeling the need to put in her last bit of venom.

Anita
I don't know why you need to use such language in your response and still claim to be the bigger person. I guess it just shows how immature you really are. I did not snub you I just don't do things for the sake of doing them any more. That is a lesson in life you might want to learn. I won't just pop up and say hello to you because I am in Atlanta etc. You and I said our goodbyes a long time ago and most especially because I realized that we where not friends merely acquaintances. People that hung out in college and who have since gone thier own way. And your manner and demeanor have proved me right. I sent you an email from my hotmail but you choose to respond to my work email. Because you are immature and want to lash out and be spiteful. Well I bid you Goodbye and I wish you the very best and hope you find that which you are looking.

Ola Ojigbo

I just felt like calling her out here and now. After all it is my journal.