this continues

The family thing is still ongoing. The thing that upsets me the most is that no one takes my anger seriously. Like I said earlier, (in case anyone is remotely interested in this saga) My brother left his bag in my apartment, He had hoped to come back and spend some time there but the way things panned out, that just wasn't going to happen. I did tell him I am not coming to my sister's house again to pick him up, because every time I come there, there seems to be this other plan that makes more sense than coming to spend time with me. I didn't call him yesterday and he called me in the evening, wondering why I was mad.

Okay first strike. Why am I mad? I told him clearly that it seems this visit is one-sided. He has been staying in my sister's house since he arrived and it doesn't look like he plans to visit with me AT ALL. Why are we even discussing this as if it is an issue, someone would think he was my boyfriend and I was begging him to come spend the night. It shouldn't be an issue, you should come to visit and spend time here and time over there. Not sit in one place and act like the other person should just call you once in awhile. It's absurd.

Then, today I just called from him work, because I was feeling sentimental and overcome by the fact that maybe this is petty, and his visit is almost over. You would think he would work it into his plans somewhat to come and visit me, since he leaves on Monday. Nope! But now, instead he is asking me to make arrangements for his bag.

I don't know what else to say. I told him plainly that my family needs to make time for me, and not think that their time is too busy for me. My plans are not open because I am single and don't have multitude of children, they are not. If this is the case, I am going to keep being angry and stay that way. I was going to say Fuck it! he is going back to Nigeria on Monday and God knows when I will see him again, but then, he should be saying the same thing too, and then, in that, create time out of his schedule to come visit me. Its sad that this has to happen while he is here, but this is a stance I want to make known to everyone and if it means suppress my longing to see him so be it. They need to understand that I feel strongly about this, and the time is now.