Today is one of my oldest friend's birthday. I say that even knowing that we are no longer friends. We are not enemies. We just have not spoken to each other in a long time. She is married and has a daughter (possibly 2) now and so our paths have gone in opposite directions, so much so, I do not know her new last name. She never told me. She also never told me her daughter's name. But I still remember her birthday. How is that? I bet you she remembers mine, and still refuses to call.
Women cannot essentially remain friends unless they have a common ground: single, married, married with kids, vacation together, work together, in the same profession, pursuing the same profession, etc. There has to be that common thread unless the friendship cannot be sustained. and once one of them leaves that common ground and moves into another, she starts to attract friends from the new interest and the friends from her old interest or status quo just quickly fade away. That's what happened to my friendship with this girl. And then you remember little things, like your birthdays, and graduation days (which we had in common because we both got called to Bar at the same time) and sometimes phone numbers. And pretty much nothing else. Slowly, it becomes a figment of your imagination, something that dwells in the past.
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