Look the Other Way

Reasons to go Solo - The confusing dichotomy of Monogamy
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I'm really battling with how some women can knowingly and consciously share their spouses (lovers, significant others, etc) and just be quiet about it, just swallow it like nothing happened. I don't have it in me. It's just not a mechanism that is inbuilt in me, the look-the-other-way mechanism. I just feel like exploding. I feel like this is not a space that someone else needs to exist at least while I'm in it. How can I truly express myself, be myself, and be in this space while someone else is in it? But all this is news to men.

Men just inadvertently put women in an uncomfortable competitive position with ourselves. Ordinarily this might be a woman that if you met her under normal circumstances you might actually get along with her, have a nice chat, may even be good friends, but because this man exists between both of you and you happen to be 'sharing' this man (in more than just the biblical sense), it just creates a "hostile" situation between both of you, it puts you in an unhealthy rivalry so to speak. The whole scenario is just unfortunate if you ask me. The worst part is meeting a woman and both of you get along tremendously and then you find out she is the other woman that's been having a piece of your man. 

For me, I always think why don't I take myself out of that equation - that is, after I've raised the roof with my rage (as you may have gathered!). But my mother used to say, "Don't let another woman chase you out of your man's house...." or something like that. Meaning, don't let the fact that another woman exists discourage you from staying with your man. Is that the same thing as "look-the-other-way"? So are we all sadly with one man while he samples all of us trying effortlessly to win his heart? It's all so confusing, uncomfortable, and very icky. All because some people don't know what monogamy, at least for a little while, means.

I just want a simple kind of love. Boy meets girl, boy gets enamored with girl, girl feels the same, boy and girl explore each other, boy and girl commit to each other. Boy and Girl have fun while being so committed. Even if 6 months down the line they get bored...at least for that 6 months they had a chance to experience each other mutually and exclusively with no interruptions. That's what I want..that's what I've always wanted. All this, "meeting the other woman who's been fucking your guy at the same time as you" is just total and complete emotional bullshit that no one should have to go through. You start to ask yourself, "Are men even worth all this trouble?"