women are ummph!

I don't know why it is so hard to make plans with women. 

A guy would blow off his lady to spend a night out with his buddies, but a woman would blow off her friends to spend some time with her man. At the drop of a hat she wouldn't even flinch. There is not that much respect and bond involved in female friendship such as men have with their guys. Like they say, Bros before Hos! Since I moved here I have tried to make friends with some women, and it starts out fine initially when they are single and in need of company, the minute some guy seems remotely interested in them, they just flip the switch, they instantly blow you off, Friday night after Friday night. So much so they don't even return your emails.

I took myself out this Friday to Veni Vidi Vici. My coworker and I had planned to go together since Monday, I looked at the menu and she said sounds like a good idea. I asked her every day during the week, are you going to make it, she said yes each time. I asked her first thing on Friday, she said fine, I asked her before I stepped out to lunch, she said, fine. At 3 pm she sends me an IM. I cannot make it some thing came up. I was WTF?? How many times have I freaking asked you this question. If you didn't want to go you should have just said NO. I am used to dining by myself so much I have gotten used to it, at home and outside. It just irritated the heck out of me that she would try to throw that one on me, I cannot 

make it at the umpteenth hour. Needless to say I had also invited my regualr buddies, the ones that attended my dinner party to come along. And what did they say, one responded that she had plans, and one didn't even feel the need to respond. Isn't that irritating? Women are just uummph!

That's why I've never made friends with women, I was always the lone girl who hung around the guys, that was me, sitting with them, driniking beer, laughing as they talk about how stupid women are, and they say, No offense to me, and I decline the apology because I know all too well how stupid women can be. But the second a girl breaks up with this guy, she will turn to you wanting a shoulder to cry on, wanting to talk about the relationship, wanting you to take sides. We need to realize that female friendship is not meant for only gay women, or a last minute resort to get over him, it's meant to build that brick wall so your heart doesn't get shattered when he dumps your clingy ass, so you can stop the heartbreak right with that wall and it doesn't have to hurt that much. It is meant to build that self-respect so the man doesn't feel like you can always drop everything just to be with him.

I have decided this time to make plans with myself. Just like I went to the show on Wednesday, didn't invite anybody, didn't discuss it with anyone and had a good time, didn't feel left out except for during She Will be Loved when Adam said, "Hold that someone special." His stupid skinny ass forgot that some of us came alone. I just need to be more about myself and less about, "do you want to come along?" when I know the answer is going to be NO, each time.