Miss Independent

I want to thank Ne-yo for penning that beautiful song, Miss Independent. Every time I listen to it, it makes me smile. It's no different than the Independent woman song by Destiny's Child, except this time it was sung by a man with so much respect in his voice.


That being said, my bills are not always paid on time. Sometimes I forget, like I did last month on one of my bills, or sometimes I just miscalculate and then, whoops, I get overdrawn. But it's all good. One of the best things about being single is the sense of accomplishment you obtain from surviving by yourself, being responsible for yourself, making ends meet by yourself. It makes me feel proud of myself, that no matter how many ways I am a screw up, I have been able to take care of one thing...me, so far.


Notwithstanding, my love for the Independent, I tried to think of other ways in which I would need a man, asides from the usual sex and companionship jargon, are there other ways a man can complete my life?

So I made a list in my head, hopefully it plays out now.

1) I want someone to help me change those hard to reach light bulbs; to find the actual bulbs at Home Depot and then change them.

2) I want someone to paint the scruff marks on my wall; to act like the handyman in my life.

3) I want someone who will want me every now and then, not just for sex, but want you, want to be with you ALL THE TIME (this is one of my must-haves). Sometimes it feels good to be wanted in that way.

4) I want someone to hold me; sometimes you hurt, you're confused, you feel like crying, screaming, and your head swells up with immense anger, and you just want to hold someone.

5) I want someone to drive me to Houston, Miami, Helen. All the places I would love to drive to, take those road trips to and take those road trips that I know I cannot take by myself, and we've already established that women are useless in that department (their reluctance to vacation without a man).

6) I want someone to hold my hand when I finally decide to get the tattoo on my thighs.

7) I want someone to occasionally go clubbing with, to go listen to poetry with in those areas of town that women should not be going to alone.

8) I want someone to tell me I look good, every once in awhile, it gives you tingles when you get your hair done, dress up, or maybe, you look like shit and that man just says, "You look good!" True story.

9) I want someone to listen to me whine, about my day, my life, my issues, some of which I have spoken about on here, just that someone you can talk to and just by talking it makes everything A-okay.

That's it...for now.