Conscious Coupling

One of the themes of Anita Writes, at least when this Blog initially started, was to explore the single life, live it to its fullest and to obtain a deeper sense of self by spending time with yourself, knowing and experiencing yourself. I do that all the time. Every time I spend a vacation by myself or even a casual dinner, people would marvel at how comfortable I felt in my own skin alone. They would explain to me, how this was so difficult for them to do, all while conveniently accompanied at dinner, movie, vacation, etc. I just noticed that it was so hard for people to just be One, without really looking for that Plus One. And if they don't know who the One is, their true self, that being that they were initially charged with and responsible for on this earth, if they don't know, appreciate, value, understand that one true self, how can they add that One to make a Plus One, say in marriage, partnership, etc. To me I feel it just messes up the balance. 

One of my earlier Facebook posts said:

I wonder where I was when everyone was getting married and having multiple babies...hmmm. Nobody experiences life anymore. What I mean by "experiencing life" is, it takes a little while to know yourself enough for you to want to pair up and bring children into it. That's what my blog Anita Writes talks about somewhat. How much of yourself do you know?

Truly, I haven't thoroughly understood myself. I do things sometimes I'm not even sure moments later what the motivation was when I did them. What did I hope to achieve? Where was my mind at the time? Why didn't my head/heart/soul intervene? Maybe the results would have been different if they had stepped in. To be that person, that has not fully comprehended who she is, that hasn't finished "living" and obtaining a mind, body and soul balance, to be that one without a successful 360 attainment, how can that One now be, a Plus One.

Then, I came across this succinct Facebook post about a few weeks ago from Deborah Ade who runs community pages on Facebook:  Scribe Poems which features "living poems bleeding and breathing with truth", and Life Lessons which basically just schools you with some real world knowledge. In her very few words below, she adequately captured the spirit, the true essence of individual attainment. I had to feature her piece on the blog because I was inspired by her words, how few of them, were effective in steering the point home. 

You see my dear,
Life does not begin after marriage, it only continues.
So if you're single and you haven't been living...hmm,
Marriage will simply shock you.
Marriage is simply sharing the rest of your life with someone...
Tell me dear, if you have no life as a single person,
What do you plan to share?

Need I say more.